When our children were growing up we practiced what the bible calls child training–that means we disciplined our children. Proverbs 13:24a says, He that spareth his rod hateth his son… Notice the bible uses the word “hate” not “spoils” as its commonly quoted. We didn’t abuse them, but we did spank them. I know that’s not a popular practice today, but we did our best to follow the bible’s instructions concerning raising and training our children.
We instructed our children to honor their parents and obey our voice so it would be well with them and they would live long on the earth (Ephesians 6:1-3). This is the first commandment of the ten that carries a reward for obedience. As you, we want it to be well with our children and we want them to live a long life.
This is exactly how God treats us as his children. His word is filled with conditional promises requiring obedience for reward. For example, Isaiah 1:19 says If ye be willing and obedient, ye shall eat the good of the land. The promise of eating the good of the land is dependent on willingness (attitude) and obedience (action). We tried to instill that in our children. Other scriptures echo this same idea. In Job 36:11 we read If they obey and serve him, they shall spend their days in prosperity, and their years in pleasures. God’s intention is that his children obey and serve Him–most Christians agree on this. But, it is also God’s intention that the obedient and serving ones spend their days in prosperity and their years in pleasures.